For most of us, just to hear a certain song brings back a particular memory or feeling from an earlier time in our lives. Smells, songs, sounds, sights, tastes, places, even a single word can all act as a stimulus for memories, feelings and emotions that can go as far back as early childhood.

These memory cues are very powerful and exist in all of us. Most occur in our everyday lives without us even being aware of them. However, they can also be programmed either by oneself or with the help of a psychologist or hypnotist. This programming process is called NLP or Neuro Linguistic Programming.
 

To see how NLP can be programmed to improve your love life try the following exercise: Over the next few weeks when you are either making love or masturbating, cross your index and middle finger of your left hand. Try to do this a few times over the next few weeks. Make sure that you cross your fingers only during the peak moments of your pleasure. And always cross them in exactly the same way. Then, remember to uncross your fingers once your pleasure is over.

Now, after doing this a few times over a period of days or weeks pick a neutral place, for example at the office, in a supermarket checkout line, or in a library and then cross the fingers of your left hand in exactly the same way as you did during your pleasure peaks.

Wow! Bang! and Presto! If done correctly, you should suddenly feel a small surge of orgasmic feelings washing over you just as you did during your actual pleasure peaks. Of course, it might not be a surge it might be just the memory of the last time you made love or masturbated. But at least some of your pleasurable feelings should come back to you.

Which brings us to the TANTRIC ROOM. The Tantric Room is, quite simply, a room programmed for love. By dedicating a room in your house solely for lovemaking you are, in effect, "programming" that room so that, just by entering it, sensual feelings should start to arise in you.

Your bedroom can be a Tantric Room because that is where most couples tend to make love. However, because you do other activities in the bedroom, like reading, watching TV and so on then that tends to dilute the programming effect. Better to have one private room in your house exclusively for love. It would be a good idea to have an internal and external lock to this room so that others do not accidentally walk in. Also by keeping that room completely secure and private it gives you the complete freedom to decorate the room exactly as you want.

• Massage oils
• Fragrant Incense
• Fresh fruits that have a sensual appeal (like bananas, strawberries, cherries and peaches)
• VCR and TV (for you to play erotic videos on)
• Camcorder (for you to make your own videos!)
• Sensual erotic art to decorate the walls of the room (Any image in the World Art Erotica museum is available for purchase as a Laminated Print Reproduction)
• Aphrodisiacs and relaxants like champagne, fresh oysters, ginseng, herbal ecstasy and marijuana
• Stereo for sensual music
• Love manuals and sensual guide books
• Colored light bulbs to create different moods. Red light bulbs are especially good because red light is very conducive to erotic love-making and
• Large futon or waterbed
• Any cushions or pillows (they are necessary for deeper penetration in certain sexual positions)
• Candles. Naked bodies look much better bathed in in the soft flickering glow of candlelight than say, the harsh glare of fluorescent light. Women are almost universal in their hatred of fluorescent light which tends to hightlight all physical imperfections no matter how minor.
• Wall or ceiling mirrors. Both men and women can be turned on by the reflection of themselves. The eyes are an erogenous zone that should not be forgotten.

A Tantric Room is especially suited for those who lead busy, stressful lives or for those who have children. By creating a sensual sanctuary against the chaos of this world you should find it easier to unwind and thus be more in the mood for love . . .